“The Boy in the Moon: A Father’s Journey to Understand His Extraordinary Son” by Ian Brown is a deeply personal memoir that chronicles the author’s experiences with raising his son, Walker, who was born with a rare genetic disorder called Cardiofaciocutaneous Syndrome, or CFC. The book explores the challenges, joys, and complexities of caring for a child with special needs. He explains that his son sometimes feels like the man in the moon, and he knows there is no man there. This book chronicles his exploration of why his son, then, feels so important to him. He explains how deeply he wants to know his son’s thoughts, but this question always brings him back to what goes on in his own head. Specifically, he brings up issues of the child he thought he would have had, what a normal childhood looks like, what a normal parenthood looks like, and the grief (and joys) of having a child who is not like other people. He explores, too, how amazing and perspective-changing it can be to love someone who has unique medical needs and functionality. He feels very thankful for his life with his child, despite the challenges. Brown shares the intimate details of their life, discussing the impact of Walker’s condition on daily routines, relationships, and perspectives on parenthood. He discusses how he spends much more time with his child, and contemplates the fact that Walker cannot be independent or grow into independence like other children. He learns that love and parenthood is unconditional, and how to love someone who can’t form relationships the same ways as many people do. The narrative delves into the medical aspects of CFC, as well, spreading awareness about this disorder. As Brown grapples with the emotional and practical aspects of caring for Walker, he also reflects on the broader themes of disability, acceptance, illness, and what it means to be a father.
This memoir could be used in a class interested in discussing the implications of illness and disability for a family. It addresses the complexities at home caretaking and a rare condition, making it a good book to read for students wanting to understand home care and disability in childhood. Classes hoping to engage with first-person narratives addressing childhood illness could also use this book as an example of a caretaker’s narrative. With this, individual chapters of this book could be used to explore the questions this story raises. Brown’s writings, at any point in the story, could be discussed and used in a class discussion.
