Tag: grief

On Witness and Respair: A Personal Tragedy Followed by a Pandemic

Ward describes losing her 33-year old husband in the early days of COVID when transmission wasn’t well understood and treatments were non-existent. The essay opens with a loving tribute to his individual attributes, a useful move to personalize the statistics on COVID deaths. She puts her loss in conversation with the plot of a novel she is writing about an enslaved woman who loses family and with protests in response to the murder of George Floyd.

The short essay is accompanied by a 14:27 minute audio reading.

This essay could be used in a course to prompt discussion about health disparities in COVID and the connection between those and a larger history of systemic racism. It also gives insight into grief and loss, both individual and communal, and the ways in which story is a way of processing and acting upon it.

UNCOVID–a 55-word story

This poem by Wald is composed of 55 words describing his experience as a spouse caregiver to a patient with brain cancer. The adjectives were similar to those Wald heard being used to describe the experience of COVID. In a brief afterward, he explains his intention for the poem: “I hope that this story might help readers pause, reflect, remember, and respond to suffering, both covid and ‘uncovid,’ with compassion
for others and for oneself.”

This short poem and the author’s reflection could be useful prompts for a discussion of how COVID experiences are similar to or different from other more “ordinary” or familiar experiences. There is also room here to discuss the ambiguity in poetry and the way it can allow both for multiple individual interpretations and empathy/common ground.

Being Mortal: Medicine and What Matters in the End.

A contemplation of the limits of medical care through many specific stories of decision points about when to stop treatment in favor of palliative care. Gawande has been a physician for a long time and an activist/ writer on the side of “know when to say when” – i.e. just because medical technology exists to prolong life doesn’t mean that’s the best thing to do – for almost as long. He makes convincing cases for stopping expensive treatment and “giving life to days” more often than Hail Mary passes that might bring on the 2% chance of a cure.

The book is a readily accessibe read for many audiences and could be assigned in full or excerpted. It was also the subject of a PBS documentory that could be used to supplement class use and bring the text to life.

Consolarte: The Artist’s Grief deck en espanol.

A collection of artistic images paired with concrete suggestions for dealing with grief. The “deck” began (and continues) as an Instagram page that allows people to submit artwork+activity, and now exists in physical form as a card deck. This link goes to Spanish language version; the physical card deck and original Instagram site are in English. The suggestions described on each card could be used as discussion activities in intermediate level and up courses, and might be particularly well suited for community groups.