Cory Taylor’s memoir, “Dying: A Memoir,” confronts the profound questions surrounding death and the pursuit of a dignified end. At the age of 60, Taylor was diagnosed with incurable cancer, propelling her into a realm where death was an uncomfortable, often ignored reality. Having witnessed her parents’ agonizing decline into dementia and death in nursing homes, Taylor was determined to approach her own mortality differently. Fueled by a desire for a better death, she started on a journey that led her to become an ambassador for the dying. In a society that often shies away from discussing death, Taylor explored the silence surrounding it, describing it as a “monstrous silence” that leaves individuals facing death feeling isolated.
The memoir raises important questions about the medical profession’s reluctance to discuss death, the prioritization of expensive cancer treatments over palliative care research, and the influence of religious groups in the debate on assisted dying. Taylor herself contemplated assisted dying, even ordering a euthanasia drug, but struggled with the decision due to the absence of a supportive legal framework and concerns about the impact on her loved ones.What sets Taylor’s memoir apart is her lack of self-righteousness. She doesn’t embark on a spiritual journey or offer easy answers. Instead, she explores the complexities within her own family, highlighting irreconcilable rifts and exploring the history that shaped her.
The narrative weaves together scenes from Taylor’s life, from her childhood experiences in Fiji to her first recognition of desire and mortality. Throughout, she emphasizes that life’s messiness is its own reward, challenging the notion of a neat, happy ending. Cory Taylor died shortly after the book’s publication, leaving behind a legacy that reflects her quest for a good death. While the book doesn’t provide a definitive conclusion, Taylor’s peaceful death surrounded by family suggests that, in some ways, her desire for a dignified end was fulfilled.
This story could be used as an example of a patient’s personal narrative of dying in any class that addresses issues of aging and dying. This book could serve as a strong and vulnerable patient narrative for a course in healthcare that wants to address narrative medicine, raising questions of what makes a good story, what doesn’t get talked about, and how many factors and narratives shape the reality of death.
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Language: English
Type of Story: Book
Medium: written
Contributed by: Ruby Gates ( rubygates@comcast.net )
Citation:
Taylor, C. (2017). Dying: A memoir. Tin House Books.